I Don’t Know if I’m Ready to Give Up My Sexual Behaviors

The most satisfying and fulfilling rewards we receive at Candeo come in the form of individuals all over the world sharing their success stories with us. This is why we created Candeo–to fulfill our vision of helping people break free from unwanted sexual outlets and behaviors. But for every success story, there are many struggling individuals that visit our website seeking help, but for different reasons decide not to proceed with our full training program. If you’re involved in unwanted sexual behaviors, and you’ve tried to stop but can’t, I want to talk with you for a few minutes.

First of all, please know I have a lot of understanding and compassion for where you are right now. For more than 30 years, I’ve had the wonderful opportunity to work with individuals and couples from all walks of life. I have witnessed their struggles to break free from many different kinds of sexual outlets and behaviors–things that started out pleasurable and exciting, but over time became extremely disruptive in their personal lives and relationships. While the words are different, everyone who comes to me for help essentially expresses the same feelings, “Dr. Christensen, the sexual stuff I’m into just isn’t working for me anymore. I want to stop. I want to get my life back.”

If you feel this way, but you’re hesitant to move forward with the Candeo program, here are a few of the barriers that often hold people back from getting the help they need. Perhaps one or more of these are getting in your way:

  • It’s awkward and embarrassing to get help: Because the Candeo program is completely online, you can get help and remain anonymous. You can use a private “screen name” to communicate with your Candeo Coach, and with other struggling individuals world-wide in our “Student Forum.”
  • I can do it on my own: It’s natural to think that you can break out of your behaviors on your own. Maybe you can read the right book, listen to some CDs or find free resources on the Internet. In a few cases, people can be successful with books, CDs and working it out on their own. But, if you’ve tried this route, and you’re still stuck, then you really need to seek additional help. In the Candeo program, we have assembled a host of highly effective instruction, training, tools, resources and support–all in one place, at the push of a button. Everything you need to be successful is likely found in our online program.
  • I don’t know if I can quit: After trying again and again to break out of unwanted sexual outlets and behaviors, and falling right back into old habits, it’s easy to wonder, “Will I ever break free?” Since we first began our online program, Candeo has helped struggling individuals in all 50 states and in 53 different countries across the world. There’s a very good chance we will be able to help you. Try our program for 30 days, and if it’s not working, you can receive a full refund.
  • My motivation goes up and down: We all have the habit of “waiting for the perfect timing” to make important decisions and take difficult steps in our lives. The trouble with this approach, is that often, the perfect timing never comes. I find that the best approach is to simply “decide to decide” and just get started. Otherwise, you’ll keep procrastinating, rationalizing and delaying the success that’s waiting for you.
  • The cost is too high and I don’t have the time: We’ve designed the Candeo program to be extremely cost effective. At just $47 per month, you can afford to invest in your future. Because the program is online, you can be involved whenever it works for you. We’ve also divided the training, tools and resources into short time frames, so you can easily fit it into your busy schedule. So, time and money are really minor issues. Besides, if you calculate all of the various “costs” of your unwanted behaviors, you’ll probably decide “it’s not worth it” to keep putting of getting help.
  • I don’t know if I really want to give it up: Many struggling individuals have a kind of “love/hate relationship” with their unwanted sexual outlets and behaviors. In some ways, what they’re doing is highly pleasurable and self-medicating. But, over time the “rush” or “high” becomes less satisfying and the after-effects increasingly severe. Many grow increasingly weary of the bouts with depression, loneliness and other negative emotions. Some are simply tired of “being a slave” to their impulses and outlets. Many individuals I’ve helped over the years have put it very plain and simple–”I just want my life back!” or “I want to feel normal, be normal and have normal, healthy, fulfilling relationships!”

If you’re trying to decide whether or not you’re ready to change, or get some help, take it from someone who has worked with many thousands of people with similar struggles for more than 30 years–There’s no better time to get started than right now; if not now, then when? Believe in yourself. Believe that it is possible to change. Believe that you deserve to be happy and have fulfilling relationships. All you have to do is take that first step–it all begins by signing up for the Candeo program.

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