Written by on March 21, 2012 in Blog, Masturbation Addiction, Porn Addiction, Testimonials - Comments Off on “Back on the road to a “normal” life”


I have wanted to change for many years. In the past I have gone over the plan in my head to get this accomplished. I slipped up over and over again because I used denial and forced restraint. FRC has been the missing tool I needed. So far, all has gone extremely well. I have not been porn and masturbation free for this long ever (at least 45 years). I am not the type of person who “waits for the other shoe to drop” but I do know that I must be on guard. The daily exercises help in that regard. Failure in the past for me was also due to not facing why I got to this point. I was molested as a child and I am gradually “unpeeling that onion” as well. I have a great wife (32 years) great kids, grand kids and other family. Read more…

Written by on March 14, 2012 in Uncategorized - Comments Off on “Talk about a paradigm shift”

Coach —

I want to quickly check in with you tonight and tell you how grateful I am. For a long time in my life I was completely numb to things. I knew that I needed to set goals, so I would set them, but they would rarely get completed. As I look back on my time since starting Candeo, there are a handful of “moments of clarity” where things just make sense. Read more…

Written by on February 28, 2012 in Blog - Comments Off on “The boulder of shame is pretty much gone”

Hi Coach,

I must say that since I’ve had some sustained sobriety life is much more interesting! I used to go through the days feeling awful, with little interest in anything. Shame weighed down on me like a huge boulder, and the only thing I looked forward to was the nighttime, so I could sleep and let the unconsciousness carry me away from my pain for a few hours. And yet, even in those moments of sleep I was sometimes plagued with pornographic dreams, which only fueled my feelings of hopelessness and worthlessness. Read more…

Written by on February 15, 2012 in Uncategorized - Comments Off on “Now I understand sexuality’s real role”

Coach —

It’s been some time since I wrote, I have had my ups and downs, but overall I’m better that I have been in years. I have learned a lot, most important of which is how precious the gift of sexuality is. were before I used to demonize it, curse it, even wish I never had it. yes that’s how bad my relationship with my sexuality was. Now when I see a physically attractive woman I feel drawn to her I breath and am thankful for this gift and ask to be guided to use it in the way that it was meant to be used.
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Written by on January 31, 2012 in Blog, Porn Addiction, Testimonials - Comments Off on “Learning to Make Each Day Count”

My issues started when i was maybe 14-15 and came out of feelings of low self worth and being desperate to fit in and be accepted. I was very small as a teenager and didn’t grow until I was 17-18, I discovered porn and masturbation at 14 and I guess it became my drug of choice.
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Written by on December 6, 2011 in Healthy Sexuality, Porn Addiction, Testimonials - Comments Off on Just Knowing That I’m Back in the Program is a Huge Help

Coach —

I am back and I wanted to share my story. A year ago I started the Candeo program and used it for about 3 months before quiting and backsliding. Viewing pornography and masturbation are the extent of my addictions. I have never cheated on my wife and we actually have a very happy marriage. Porn for me is like comfort food – when I’m tired, stressed and exhausted I turn to porn for entertainment. I actually have no desire to be physical with anyone other than my wife. I get the same feeling after viewing porn as I do a good action movie. I realize that you are a coach and not a therapist, however, it is very theraputic for me to sit down and write this stuff out.
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Written by on November 29, 2011 in Blog, Healthy Sexuality, Masturbation Addiction, Porn Addiction, Testimonials - Comments Off on Since I Had Prepared, The Decision Was Made Great.

Had a few moments today to fall weak and walk down that road again. They where unplanned and just a surprise. As quickly as I could my focus went to where and what I needed to do.( I am in the last stages of the training material and what I listen to several times was giving the planner the avenue and opportunity to do its part. Read more…

Written by on November 22, 2011 in Blog, Porn Addiction, Rebuilding Relationships, Sexual Addiction, Testimonials - Comments Off on Without the Candeo Way it Would Have Been a Slip.

Good morning Coach,

I’ve been really busy lately. Now that I’ve started to curb my addiction to porn I’m actually able to go out and do things I’ve wanted to do for a really long time. I’m not forced to stay near a computer anymore. It is really rewarding.
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Written by on November 15, 2011 in Blog, Healthy Sexuality, Porn Addiction, Rebuilding Relationships, Sexual Addiction - Comments Off on Stop Wondering If It Is Going To Stop

Coach –

I want you to know that I am really working hard on my recovery, and I am not just sitting back and relying on the first five months that I have been off of porn and masturbation.
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Submitted by a Candeo Student

I’ve been in the Candeo program for a few months and the stuff I’m learning really got me thinking about this whole masturbation thing. I started masturbating when I was about 13 and I did it regularly all during my teen years. A lot of times I did it with porn and other times just to fantasies in my mind and sometimes I did it for a quick rush or just to get to sleep. It wasn’t a big deal and it wasn’t hurting any one, it was convenient and free, and it was just a natural, normal urge. But it got out of control where I couldn’t “not” do it and that really pissed me of, like something was controlling me and I was a slave to it. I don’t like to be controlled. That is one of the big reasons I signed up for the Candeo program so I could get my freedom back, so I could get back in charge of my own life.
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