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Written by on August 24, 2012 in Sexual Addiction - Comments Off on Porn and Sex as Medication

When a person first is exposed to pornography or sexual behaviors it is often done through curiosity. However, due to the high amounts of addictive neurochemicals that are released, particularly with internet pornography, it can quickly become addictive. Students in the Candeo program report going from curiosity, to using it recreationally, then as a source of self-medication, and some to dependency. With dependency, a person’s brain starts viewing these behaviors as a necessity — such as food and water. They also report that they found themselves needing it more and more – just as it was a drug. And they found themselves being led to other types of risky sexual behaviors — which put their physical and mental health in danger, as well as damaged their relationships.
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Written by on April 23, 2012 in Rebuilding Relationships - Comments Off on What IS Healthy Intimacy?

I received this message the other day from a student and I felt it was very impactful. There seems to be a lot of buzz out there about nutrition and physical health. This student took that information and applied it to creating healthy sexual intimacy. Here is how he explained it:
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Written by on November 17, 2011 in Sexual Addiction - Comments Off on How Committed Are You?

In our coaches meeting one day, we were discussing a trend that we see, particularly among newer students. They sometimes wonder and ask us, “Is it normal to wonder if I am committed enough to really change?” This question typically comes after a slip or near slip.
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Written by on October 26, 2011 in Blog - Comments Off on Effects of Shame in Addiction

As a coach at Candeo and working with hundreds of students over the years, one of the most devastating effects I have observed of addiction is shame. Shame has a crippling effect on my students. It has the capability of trapping a person in the quick sand of despair, keeping them tied to their behaviors. However, once they learn how to deal with shame in a healthy way, there is an immediate difference in their recovery process.
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