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Written by on August 24, 2012 in Sexual Addiction - Comments Off on Porn and Sex as Medication

When a person first is exposed to pornography or sexual behaviors it is often done through curiosity. However, due to the high amounts of addictive neurochemicals that are released, particularly with internet pornography, it can quickly become addictive. Students in the Candeo program report going from curiosity, to using it recreationally, then as a source of self-medication, and some to dependency. With dependency, a person’s brain starts viewing these behaviors as a necessity — such as food and water. They also report that they found themselves needing it more and more – just as it was a drug. And they found themselves being led to other types of risky sexual behaviors — which put their physical and mental health in danger, as well as damaged their relationships.
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Written by on August 17, 2012 in Blog, Sexual Addiction - No comments

Candeo Co-Founder, Dr. Bernell Christensen

As a therapist, I’m often asked, “Is sex a need or an appetite?” This is a great question and one that I’m going to answer with a simple response—”Yes”—it’s both.

As you will learn in the Candeo program, every human being is born with the capacity for sexual desire. It’s a basic instinct to sustain our own species through procreation. And just as important, we also have the innate need to experience deep connection and intimacy with another human being. Sexual thoughts and desires are very normal and natural. It’s only when these thoughts and desires become exaggerated, that they turn destructive.
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Written by on June 4, 2012 in Sexual Addiction - Comments Off on Slips and Safety Nets

My wife and I recently attended the Circus. It had been many years since I had been. I think 1962, at Madison Square Garden, I watched Ringling Brothers: Barnum and Bailey Circus. It was still pretty magical to me, even today.
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We thrive on research-based recovery practices and another study was recently published in the International Journal of Psychophysiology on breathing as meditation.
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Written by on November 22, 2011 in Blog, Porn Addiction, Rebuilding Relationships, Sexual Addiction, Testimonials - Comments Off on Without the Candeo Way it Would Have Been a Slip.

Good morning Coach,

I’ve been really busy lately. Now that I’ve started to curb my addiction to porn I’m actually able to go out and do things I’ve wanted to do for a really long time. I’m not forced to stay near a computer anymore. It is really rewarding.
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Written by on November 17, 2011 in Sexual Addiction - Comments Off on How Committed Are You?

In our coaches meeting one day, we were discussing a trend that we see, particularly among newer students. They sometimes wonder and ask us, “Is it normal to wonder if I am committed enough to really change?” This question typically comes after a slip or near slip.
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Written by on November 15, 2011 in Blog, Healthy Sexuality, Porn Addiction, Rebuilding Relationships, Sexual Addiction - Comments Off on Stop Wondering If It Is Going To Stop

Coach –

I want you to know that I am really working hard on my recovery, and I am not just sitting back and relying on the first five months that I have been off of porn and masturbation.
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Hi Coach,
It’s been a while since i haven’t written to you but I’ve been really busy lately, anyways I am just writing to you to let you know that it has been more than 1 month since the last time I’ve slipped, i.e. since I started Candeo program. I have never been this far! I am really proud about myself! Although sometimes I am facing lot of nasty triggers and some other times failing to practice FRC, but the good thing is that I am not quitting and I am trying harder and I already started to feel much better about myself and to realize the things I was trying to burry before.

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Submitted by a Candeo Student

I am still using the FRC technique every time that I am faced with the urge to act out my addiction. I also have been listening to several of the podcasts offered in the Candeo Plus site. I think it has been about a month since I last had a slip but I am not quite sure because I am no longer basing my recovery on how long I have not slipped. I am concentrating more on my awareness and how quickly I can notice my triggers and take the appropriate actions.
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I have been practicing as a Clinical Psychologist for more than 25 years. During that time, I have diagnosed and treated individuals, couples and families for a host of mental health and addiction issues. I can tell you that in all my experience, I have consistently observed several common core issues at the foundation of most people’s mental health and addiction challenges. One of the most important factors is loyalty. This holds especially true for sexual/pornography addiction. I submit that one of the core issues at the heart of an individual’s struggle with pornography use is a “lack of loyalty.” This contributes greatly to feelings of isolation, disconnection and loneliness-all major factors in this addiction. Take time to deeply consider the following concepts AND to complete the simple exercises:
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