Just finished listening to that podcast you recommended. That is just what I needed again I can not tell you how much I appreciate what you guys are doing. It is really making a difference for me, and it is comforting to know that there are people like you who understand, and are ready and willing to help.
Little did I know last September when I came to Candeo as a broken person the ramifications that it would be possible to get back my life. I have been able to recommend so many people to this great program. Having a caring coach and a loving God and a system of recovery that goes far beyond just stopping the bad behavior. Now I can actually make strides in the Christian life that make sense and are realistic but even more continue to push back the darkness. Truly God is in this program.
"I was in a very vulnerable position—alone, with sudden access to very provokative images. But I used some training and voila, no problem!"
I feel like I’m getting better and better in controlling myself. Two times yesterday and one time the day before I was able to resist temptations in situations that should have forced my to resort to my addiction.
I have been in the program a short time, but I can honestly say I'm seeing a significant difference already. The biggest one is that I feel like I'm finally understanding myself. I am able to stop the cravings and put my brain in charge with the FRC tool.
The second biggest difference is how I handle these strong urges. Before Candeo, I would slip and go into a tailspin that could last for a week or more. In those tailspins, I could go into 'viewbating' (my own shorthand for viewing porn and masturbating) sessions that could last for hours a day. Now, when I'm struggling, I find myself being more constructive about it and getting past it quickly. I'm very early in my learning but I am completely convinced already of the value of this program.
I had been successful in many programs that I've participated in trying to overcome these behaviors, but it was always short lived - soon I would find myself back into my old ways. Understanding the importance of long-term change and using the Candeo tools has helped me to sustain the changes over a longer period of time and I finally believe that I can keep this up - my fear is gone.
My husband has been able to share with me without shutting down. Learning through the Candeo resources played a big role. Oh, how I remember those early horrible days! All I can tell you is that for us, Candeo has been a miracle. My husband was skeptical at first. He battled his addiction for decades. But as he studied the program diligently and committed himselft TOTALLY to recovery, he has done a complete 180.
I literally had nobody to share my struggles with, I was pretty alone in the world with my "problem." The first time that I shared my struggles with my coach an incredible weight lifted from me. Suddently I wasn't alone. My communications after that point were vital to changing. BUT the most important thing is that after getting the courage to share with my coach, I was able to share with some of my friends and family too and finally get the support I needed.
Thank you guys. It's been a rough journey getting here, and I'm glad this program is available. I can see it working already. When I'm out in public, I see people no longer as sex objects. My life is transforming already, and maybe I can get my relationship back with the one I love. But for right now, I am relearning who I am, and how to make better choices.
I will be forever grateful for all of you here on the forum. I was in a pretty dark place this week and the things you said made such an impact on me. You know, just knowing I wasn't alone made all the difference in the world - I love you guys.